#MomLife

As much as everyone says this dumb phrase.... the struggle is real....

being a mom, your life essentially consists of doing one thing... taking care of everyone else, which doesn't sound horrible but if you don't make it a priority to make some time for yourself you can get lost in it and then its a slippery slope to crazy town. With a newborn this is increasingly difficult, because your new little one needs you just about every two hours to be fed and changed and so on... which if you are formula feeding will give you more freedom as your spouse can do it so you can take a nap or an extra long shower.... 

I am lucky enough that I have family close by who is more than happy to spend time with my little ones so I can take a beat and find the calm I need to not go absolutely crazy town. but the struggle is there.. like I have said in previous posts the strive to be that "perfect" mom is harrowing, and will drown you if you let it. Even though I have family to watch my children every now and then, it is few and far between as I don't want to overuse that asset, so with lack of sleep with a newborn and an almost three year old, there are times where I think I am totally failing... but like the last post I did, referencing WineMom, rather than holding myself up to the other "perfect"moms, I need to find that place where I am okay with just being an "okay" mom.... somewhere in-between....

To quote Ferris ..."Life moves fast, if you don't stop and look around once in a while you might miss it..."

Applied in the 80's ad still applies now.

New Edition, and other thoughts

So i am three weeks in and my new little one is adorable. He came to a whopping 9 lbs on the day of - and he was three weeks early! As previously stated, thank GOD for C-Sections.

At this point I feel its necessary to quote one of my favorite shows to watch, "Last Man Standing", in saying that raising children is far, and that is something you don't really understand till there is more than one - in saying "one goat does not make you a farmer."

While that is true and slightly offensive to those who have one child, I have found in the last several weeks that it is true. I didn't get it before, but as expected, its more difficult with more than one child... you have both kids that need your attention and you have to split it up as equally as you can.... you have to care for your newborn and make an extra effort to make sure that your first and or second child don't feel neglected....  its a lot..

Quoting a vlog  I recently found (I made a link below so you can see it) - Wine Mom - there was an "episode" where she talked about being a parent and the stresses of being the perfect mom.  And you know what she is right. there is so much pressure to be the mom with the perfect Instagram, and with your children dressed like they just stepped off of a Pinterest page, or that they need to eat x dinner or do x activity....

I am not perfect, and I don't want to be, its hard. I spend so much time, pre making breakfasts, doing the grocery shopping, folding and washing clothes (not in that order but you know what I meant), picking up the house, and still working full time, and doing school part time.... so much like Wine Mom I may serve Mac and Cheese for dinner or maybe do it two nights in a row.... or let my kid watch an hour or two of tv on the weekends so I can decompress or get something done.

But I love my kids. both of my boys are happy, and fed. My youngest is, like we previously said, 3 weeks old, and is ADORABLE... looks exactly like his brother at that age.... While I am exhausted, and stressed and well probably slightly crazy, will say, I am happy, and super blessed, I know this stage won't last forever so I just want to soak it in while I can....

Wine Mom